Why I Hold High Standards - And What That Really Means
- Jenni Mears
- Jun 26
- 3 min read
Updated: 3 days ago
My blog this week was inspired by a conversation with one of my amazing advanced level- 2 students in her case study online mentoring session today. We spoke about how holding a high standard in all aspects of your inner and outer world is life changing.
There was a time in my life when “high standards” felt like a performance a striving to be good, impressive, capable, polished.
A deep conditioning to be seen as competent, respectable, and above all, not too much.
But that’s not what I mean when I speak about holding high standards now.
Today, high standards are an embodied practice.
They’re not about being better.
They’re about being in deep integrity with myself, with others, and with the work I offer in the world.
High standards are not perfectionism
Perfectionism comes from fear, a fear of getting it wrong, being judged, or being found out as not enough.
It’s a tight, anxious energy that creeps into the body and robs the moment of aliveness.
My high standards don’t come from fear.
They come from dedication to truth, to quality, to what feels aligned in my nervous system and my body.
When I create a container for women whether in a Fembodiment™️ Method training, a Jade Egg Yoga experience, or a one-on-one mentoring space the standard is clear:
Depth. Honesty. Presence.
Not polish. Not performance.
High standards are a form of care.
For me, high standards are a way of honouring people’s time, energy, and desire for real transformation. I don’t want anyone to walk into a space I’ve created and feel like I’m winging it, or offering a diluted version of what’s possible. That doesn’t serve anyone.
In a sea of women’s events and courses that often encourages shortcuts and surface-level growth, I hold to this:
Depth matters. Embodiment matters. How we do things matters.
Whether I’m preparing a practice, mentoring a facilitator, or creating a simple resource my energy is in it.
Not because I’m chasing perfection, but because it matters to me that it feels good, real, and right.
High standards are also for me.
I don’t hold high standards only for others.
I hold them for myself not in punishment, but in respect.
When I say yes to something, I want it to be a full-body yes. When I commit, I want to show up in a way that I’m proud of.
That means I say no more easily now.
I take more space. I rest deeply.
Because part of having high standards is not abandoning myself in order to meet them.
In my 60s, I’m no longer willing to lower the bar to be more “relatable” or popular.
And I say that with love.
Women are done with watered-down experiences.
They’re ready for something that meets them in their inner power, their intelligence, their desire.
That’s why the Fembodiment™️ Method I have created, holds a high standard not just for its processes and practices, but for integrity.
It’s not just another modality; it’s a homecoming to the wisdom of the body.
And that deserves to be held with clarity, care, and presence.
That’s why the Fembodiment™️ Method holds a high standard — not just for technique, but for integrity. It’s not just another modality; it’s a homecoming to the wisdom of the body.
And that deserves to be held with clarity, care, and presence.
High standards, for me, are an act of liberation
They create a structure strong enough for softness. A clarity spacious enough for real feminine unfolding. And a trust deep enough to allow others to rise into their own truth - not perform mine.
Ready to meet yourself at this depth?
If you’re a woman who holds herself to a high standard - or longs to - The Fembodiment™️ Method will meet you there.
Whether you’re called to deepen your own embodied practice, or ready to step into guiding others with clarity and care…
✨ The next Fembodiment™️ Method Facilitator Training begins in September.
Jenni Mears , Creator and Teacher of the Fembodiment™️ Method
