As a Fembodiment™️ Teacher, I believe in holding spaces where women feel seen, heard, and deeply supported in their journeys. True safety allows for vulnerability, boundaries, and the freedom to explore without fear of judgment or harm. But not all spaces uphold these principles.
In my experience, unsafe spaces are often cloaked in promises of transformation but lack the foundational respect and accountability required to truly honor the people within them. Here are three signs to help you recognise when a space may not be safe for your healing and self-empowerment:
1. Dismissing Boundaries as Resistance
In Fembodiment™️ Method work, boundaries are sacred. They are expressions of your inner knowing and self-trust. Yet, in some spaces, boundaries are dismissed or labeled as resistance. You may hear things like, “You’re just afraid of your growth,” or, “This discomfort is part of the process—just push through.”
While growth can be uncomfortable, your “no” is never up for negotiation. When a facilitator or leader pressures you to override your intuition, it signals a lack of respect for your autonomy. In a truly safe(r) space, your boundaries are not seen as obstacles but as doorways to deeper self-awareness and trust.
2. Lack of Accountability
In a safe space, leadership is not about control; it’s about stewardship. A facilitator’s ability to acknowledge their impact—whether intentional or unintentional—is foundational to trust. Unsafe spaces often lack this accountability.
If harm arises and is met with defensiveness, blame, or silence, the space becomes unsafe. Accountability is not about perfection but about repair. It’s about leaders who can say, “I hear you. Let’s work through this together.” Without this, participants are left feeling isolated and unheard, undermining the very healing they came to seek.
3. Spiritual Gaslighting
One of the most harmful dynamics in spiritual spaces is gaslighting disguised as guidance. It might sound like:
• “You’re only feeling this way because you’re holding onto your trauma.”
• “Your triggers are your responsibility to work through, not ours to accommodate.”
• “If you were more spiritually evolved, this wouldn’t bother you.”
Spiritual gaslighting invalidates your emotions and experiences in the name of “growth.” True Fembodiment™️ Method work honors the full spectrum of your humanity, including the parts that feel messy or vulnerable. A safe(r) space doesn’t silence your pain; it sits with you in it, offering compassion and care.
What Does a Safe(r) Space Feel Like?
In a safe(r) space, your boundaries are honored, your experiences are validated, and the facilitators lead with humility and accountability. These spaces self-empower you to step into your fullest expression, knowing you are supported every step of the way.
As a Fembodiment™️ Teacher/Facilitator, I am committed to creating these kinds of spaces—where your “yes” and your “no” hold equal power, where you are met with respect, and where your unique journey is honored.
If you ever find yourself questioning whether a space feels right, trust your body. Your intuition is your greatest guide. You deserve to be in environments that nurture your growth, not diminish your trust in yourself.
Let’s continue to build and seek spaces where women thrive in their authenticity, radiance, and inner power.
Jenni Mears - creator of The Fembodiment™️ Method
If you would like to know more about our next Fembodiment™️ Method Certified Training in August 2025 head over to https://www.thefembodimentinstitute.com/the-fembodiment-method-certification
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