Expressing Your Needs Without Question: A Return to Inner Sovereignty
- Nicci Jaggard
- Jun 4
- 3 min read
For many women, the act of expressing a need can feel risky. We’ve been conditioned, often in subtle and unspoken ways to believe that having needs makes us too much, too emotional, or too demanding. As if simply existing in our fullness is somehow an inconvenience.
But here’s the truth: your needs are not negotiable.
They are not flaws to hide, nor burdens to apologise for. Your needs are the sacred language of your body, your nervous system, and your inner world communicating what is required for you to feel safe, nourished, and whole.
Reclaiming the Right to Need
So many of us have learned to override our needs, to stay quiet, to please, to push through. We’ve been praised for being low-maintenance, for going with the flow, for not “asking for too much.” And yet beneath this conditioning lies a quiet ache: the part of us that longs to be seen, supported, and met in our fullness.
Expressing your needs is not selfish. It’s not demanding.
It is a radical act of self-respect.
When you clearly state what you want, whether it’s more space, deeper rest, emotional presence, or practical support, you are setting the tone for how you wish to be in relationship with yourself and others.
Embodiment as a Pathway to Clarity
Through Fembodiment™, we begin to recognise that our needs live in the body first, often as subtle sensations, tightness, contractions, or longing. When we slow down and truly listen to our bodies, we discover what we are aching for.
Maybe your body is saying:
*I need more stillness.
* I need to move.
*I need loving self-touch.
*I need to be heard.
As you learn to attune to these internal signals, it becomes easier to honour them in your outer world. And with practice, you no longer need to second-guess yourself or water your truth down for the comfort of others.
Your Needs Are Not Up for Debate
It’s important to remember: expressing a need doesn’t mean forcing someone to meet it. It simply means you’re willing to stand in your truth without shame. You’re choosing to honour what’s real for you.
And in doing so, you give others permission to meet you honestly.
You also begin to magnetise relationships where your needs are held, valued, and responded to, not dismissed or minimised.
Because how you tend to your needs teaches others how to tend to you.
Let It Be Simple
You don’t have to explain yourself.
You don’t have to make your request more palatable.
You don’t have to justify needing what you need.
Let it be simple. Let it be clear.
Let it come from the grounded knowing that you matter.
A Soulful Standard
Your needs are not burdens, they are soulful standards. They’re how your body and spirit remain aligned, nourished, and alive.
When you honour your needs, you begin to embody a deeper truth:
That your well-being matters.
That your voice is valid.
That your presence is worth honouring, not just by others, but by yourself first.
So, what do you need today?
Can you soften into that knowing and give yourself permission to name it without question, without apology, and without shrinking your truth?
This is the path of the embodied woman.
And your body already knows the way.
If this speaks to something stirring in you, I invite you to join me for Embodying Your Feminine Pulse, a 4-week series designed to guide you home to your body’s wisdom, restore your sense of self-trust, and awaken your connection to feminine energy, power, and pleasure.
This is a space to reconnect, reclaim, and remember the truth that your needs are not too much, they are the very compass of your being.
You are warmly welcome, exactly as you are. click the link to find out more.
Nicci Jaggard - Fembodiment™ Facilitator
